Pebbles – Our Puzzling Paradox – Part Two

A recent post I wrote describing Pebbles’ cute obsession with mangling game rules prompted a reader to ask if Pebbles does the same thing when she plays with her friends.

That question can’t be answered with a simple Yes or No. Or even a Sort of. Like everything else with Pebbles – nothing is simple. I’ve written a few posts about the trials of raising her. You can find them in the Special Needs category.

We’ve ridden the Mystery Diagnosis Roller Coaster with Pebbles ever since her first official evaluation when she was four. Since then we’ve dragged her from specialist to specialist in an effort to get an answer that would explain WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON WITH THIS CHILD!!


We still aren’t certain but we think we’re getting closer to knowing. We’ve been given so many diagnoses that sort of fit. But as time went on they didn’t really fit well enough.

Three times she’s been diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder. And as we’ve learned about SPD we’ve seen more and more evidence that sensory issues may be the cause of Pebbles’ quirks, idiosyncrasies, motor delays, reading/writing issues and behavioral problems.

This mother’s blog post does an excellent job of describing what it’s like living with, and loving, a child with SPD. Pebbles has a lot in common with this little guy, although medication and maturity have helped a lot with her aggression.

So, back to the question about Pebbles playing with her friends. The sad fact is that she really doesn’t have any friends. We live on a farm so there are no neighborhood kids around. Because of her sensory issues Pebbles can’t handle school (we’ve tried, twice) or group sports, so she has no buddies. The Rock and I are old, so we really don’t have any friends with kids. And none of Pebbles cousins live close.

But Pebbles is a kid magnet, a people person. She LOVES to play with kids. So we hang out at indoor and outdoor playgrounds a lot. And, yes, Pebbles likes to be the one to make the rules, which has led to some arguments and some unhappy playmates. Medication and maturity have helped with this a lot and she’s learning about give and take. She has partly solved this problem by choosing younger and/or easily-led kids to play with. But there are still days that we have to go home early.

Life with Pebbles hasn’t been easy. She has been a difficult kid from the beginning. The Rock and I have exhausted ourselves searching for answers, for ways to help her and dealing with her constant ups and downs. But above all, we love her to pieces.

And that’s why we choose to look for the humor, the happiness, the joy in raising this beloved, special little girl who has completely turned our lives upside down and inside out, in the very best ways.

Wondering who The Rock and Pebbles are? Want to know
why we’re raising Pebbles? And who the heck is OCD Louie?
Find the answers and more on my About My Blog page.

You might also like Eleven Random Facts About Me and
My Answers to Sophie’s Questions on my Liebster page.

About Mai Stone

“A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs…jolted by every pebble on the road.” ~ Henry Ward Beecher ~ A sense of humor is essential for surviving the pebbles on life’s road. Especially when they’re the size of boulders.
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10 Responses to Pebbles – Our Puzzling Paradox – Part Two

  1. scifihammy says:

    I cannot begin to imagine how hard it has all been for you, and continues to be. From the posts you write, the love shines thro, and you seem to be coping somehow. It is good to look on the fun times, and to know Pebbles really is a special little girl 🙂

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    • I completely understand that you can’t begin to imagine how hard it’s been because The Rock and I *never* foresaw that it would be this hard to raise Pebbles. He pointed out just the other day how much we’d aged since Pebbles was 3 when we had a family photo taken. Yikes! Who ARE those young people? And where did they go?!

      Thank you for saying the love shines through because that is what we strive for.

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  2. Deb says:

    Thanks Grandma Stone! This is an amazing story, and if you already noted, I reblogged this on my blog as a part of my ongoing Blog Share series where I introduce readers to great blogs. I appreciate knowing more about Pebbles, and also knowing that she is so loved by her family.

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  3. Hi Mai,

    Thanks for your sticking my Warblog in my long absence…I am “bach” and I appreciate all who were “beethoven” in the meantime. You are indeed both ROCKS with Pebbles. I admire it. Truly. I feel like I would be squishy as play doh or worse, and not there for anyone as difficult as either her or me!!! Thank you for being there for Pebbles. That is wonderful and I feel it myself vicariously.
    Your friend, always.

    Pam Wagner

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  4. Spell check did its miracles again and changed WAGblog to warblog…Dunno why it does that…But there you have it!!!

    Pam Wagner

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